Domestic Violence, Trauma, and Dissociation

Domestic Violence, Trauma, and Dissociation

Exposure to traumatic situations and events such as:

-physical, sexual, emotional, and spiritual abuse
-abandonment & neglect
-terminal illness
-death
-natural disaster
-acts of crime
-war and active combat

can impair healthy integration. The results of these experiences can create a continuum of disturbing affects ranging from moderate disruption to Complex PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). All of which cause an individual to experience either chaos, rigidity or both, instead of experiencing harmonious integration and well-being. Depression and feelings of fear, guilt and shame can keep people from seeking the help they need to feel better and to create a fulfilling life in the aftermath of their trauma. It is imperative for responsible professionals to provide an inviting and calm environment for these individuals. We take this responsibility seriously and we have tremendous respect for the suffering and resilience of traumatized individuals.

For trauma, dissociation, and victims of domestic violience please contact Robin Crosby at 425.345.6129

For domestic violence issues, anger management, please contact Jim Crosby at 425.870.9703

dissociation

The act of disuniting or separating complex and unbearable emotions,experiences and memories into parts. Separating usually connected mental processes (such as emotion and understanding) from the rest of the mind, as a defense mechanism, is a normal response to trauma, to varying degrees. In some cases, sustained trauma and abuse in early childhood results in dissociative identity disorder (formerly called multiple personality disorder).

domestic violence                                       

All individuals in a family deserve to be safe and respected. Domestic violence is not a result of stress or unhappiness. It is a learned behavior of power and control (with multiple influences as listed below), that can be changed. Enviornmental influences of violence include:

-Inner Factors – afflictive emotions such as anger, hatred, jealousy, greed and ignorance AND distortions of thinking
-Cultural Factors – values held and promoted in a particular society
-Religious Beliefs – beliefs that use God or ‘holy writ’ to propagate violence
-Conditioning – society, leaders, media, education system, associations (i.e., gangs), one’s family
-Situational Circumstances (i.e., desperation, poverty coupled with pressure to provide for family)

Acts of human violence and evil are not created simply by a handful of people whose fundamental nature is evil or violent. It is essential to recognize that such acts arise from many different causes on multiple levels. Overcoming the acts of evil and violence in society begins with painstaking investigation of the underlying causes.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama

It is understood that it is difficult to make changes alone. Our group and individual treatment programs help people discover the relationship skills they already have and learn new ways of thinking about how to be a partner and parent, without using violence. DV (domestic violence) involves patterns of abusive behavior against someone who is living in the same household, subjecting another person(s) to psychological, verbal, emotional, physical or sexual abuse. This also includes less obvious patterns of abuse, such as controlling, domineering, intimidation, endangerment, harassment, stalking and economic deprivation. We offer help for all parties involved in domestic violence.

We fear violence less than our own feelings. Personal, private, solitary pain is more terrifying than what anyone else can inflict. Jim Morrison