Child Therapy

Child Therapy

Perhaps the most overlooked need in children is for the adults in their lives to understand child bereavement. Bereavement is a set of reactions to a significant loss of someone or something that held meaning for the child. It can include a full range of losses, such as:

-separation & divorce
-occupational separation (military, extensive travel)
-mental or physical illness of a family member
-moving or loss of a home
-loss of a pet
-loss of a friend or family member (not only by death but by circumstances that the child may not fully understand, i.e., imprisonment)

After the loss of a significant loved one, life is never the same. It is our goal to enable children and families to acknowledge change and integrate loss with healthful grief and mourning. We help facilitate this through:

*better understanding of their own experience, without minimizing the impact upon the individual
*learning to empathize with one another
*building self-esteem and a solid sense of self in the presence of loss
*finding meaning in the loss and suffering, while building trust and hope for the future
*creating a process or ritual to facilitate expressions of grief

Less significant losses can create opportunities to ‘miss’ what is transpiring in the heart of a child. The fact of no longer having something (or having less of something) can also create turmoil for a child. Loss of employment (for a parent), physical ability, possessions or disruptive events can create bereavement which may be expressed through sadness, anger, withdrawal and inappropriate behaviors that seem unrelated. Every person is unique and child bereavement may require a skilled professional to help identify a variety of emotional reactions, behavioral responses and disturbing thoughts that are resulting from loss.

We work with each child and family to develop a a treatment plan that is tailored specifically to the individual’s needs. Our priority in working with young people is helping children to:                                                                      

-experience a nurturing environment with minimal fear and anxiety
-identify and name feelings; express unspoken feelings through play
-feel seen and heard
-understand the difference between having feelings and being responsible for circumstances
-make sense of what they are experiencing in their internal and external world
-find their voice within the family system to ask for what they need and desire
-ask for help from other resources (teachers, school counselors, coaches, etc.)
-receive genuine care and support in the therapeutic setting
-discover new ways to cope with difficult situations and unbearable feelings
-develop effective relationship skills
-realize their talents, skills, resilience, intelligence and creativity in spite of their losses

To schedule an appointment, please contact Robin Crosby at 425.345.6129 or Jim Crosby at 425.870.9703

Too many parents make life hard for their children by trying, too zealously, to make it easy for them.   Goethe